et-tu-dionyse:

[TW: rape, abuse]

You know what’s cute? Having to explain to people why rape isn’t funny.

Of course I could easily explain it, that it isn’t funny because I fail to see anything to laugh about the four times my then-boyfriend beat me and then decided that he should rape me to teach me a lesson.

Of course I could sit there and tell them about how I went vegan to hide the fact that I couldn’t drink milk anymore without having a panic attack.

Of course I could show them the burn marks on my arms - four, one for every time - and show the the x-rays of my broken foot and dislocated shoulder.

Of course I could sit there and explain to them how for the longest time even the most harmless mention of rape would give me flashbacks that would make me physically sick.

Of course I could do all of this, I could describe to them, in detail, exactly what happened to me and I’m sure before I could even finish they’d understand, but I can’t lest they deem me “overly-emotional” and “too sensitive” and of course having any sort of emotion immediately invalidates my opinion because it makes me too irrational to be allowed to speak.

It’s frustrating because it’s so easy. It really is. I can explain to anyone who really doesn’t understand what’s un-funny about rape about the bruises, about the flashbacks, about the countless showers I took trying desperately to feel clean again, about the anxiety, about the shame, about all of it, but I can’t do that because if I did no one would take me seriously because I’m not being “objective” enough.

Well fuck you, that’s not being “objective,” that’s being an apathetic douche who’s too afraid of reality to be able to face any emotions that bullshit comedians like Mr. Tosh can’t give you.

morereasonsyoushouldntfuckkids:

I do. Anytime a person makes a joke about another group of people, it’s under the assumption that someone of that group is not actually present, or that someone present doesn’t know someone of said group. Of course, you can’t exactly do that with 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men being survivors of sexual abuse— especially not on the internet. So you end up hurting a lot more people than you will ever realize, and those people will never trust you enough to share their story. They might fade out of your life and you won’t know why. They might act differently around you. They might be friendly to your face, but the fact is that they could never trust you again.

I’m not mad. I’m just disappointed.

Ditto. Any time someone laughs at a rape joke and I decide not to say anything; I judge the people laughing- forever. It means I know that the worst thing that ever happened to me in my entire life is entertaining for those people. It means I know they think my trauma is funny and can never fully understand and respect me as a person. It means I know that they are that part of society which not only stops me from healing; but that contributes to these things happening in the first place.

nicksaw:

A few gems from a typically scathing review:

And that’s before you come to the really offensive bits. Just in case you didn’t feel like the game had adequately rubbed your nose in its horrific depiction of women, Duke arrives at a point where two nude ladies promise to lose their pregnancy weight from bearing their alien children, and they plead with you to let them live. (These are the same characters who performed fellatio on you during the beginning sequences of the game.)

The only way past this section of the game is to kill both women.

In another scene, a woman sobs and asks for her father. You see, the women in the alien craft are being forcibly impregnated by the aliens, and during your journey, you hear a mixture of screams and sexual noises. After I accidentally blew up a few of these female victims in a firefight, Duke made a joke about abortion.

Video games and gamer culture get a deservedly bad rep for virtually every -ism you can think of, and games like this do nothing to dispel that. Certainly, any criticism of this game will be met with “oh, you just don’t get it. Being offensive is what Duke Nukem games are all about!” It’s the worst, most bullshit argument there is, and it’s not acceptable. If there’s a silver lining to this piece of shit game, it’s that it’s been met with universal derision and hatred for its subject matter from mainstream gaming publications. It’s sad that it took something this vile to make gamers go “wow, this is bullshit,” but it’s a start I suppose.

A link to the full review: http://arstechnica.com/gaming/reviews/2011/06/duke-nukem-forever-review-barely-playable-unfunny-and-rampantly-offensive.ars/