I’ve arranged to have a sit down chat with my Mother next week to explain to her my career choice, work, sexuality and interests as I prepare for a pretty big change in my life. While I am confident in my choices, morals and beliefs, this is probably going to be the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do voluntarily- ever. 

I don’t really have any support in person and feel very isolated right now. If anyone who works in the adult industry in any way has advice, words of wisdom or encouragement for me I would really appreciate it. 

[trigger warning: torture, sexual torture, grossness]

Bayonetta is a problematic game. Regardless of if you like it or not, as a feminist it is undeniably problematic. However, I feel really unfomfortable that peoples issue with the game are things to do with the main character herself, because for me the most fucked up part is not Bayonetta being sexy.

It’s the gential death torture used on the most female gendered bad guy in the game.

Yep. You heard me. One of the bad guy “angles” is called Joy which has a highly sexualized ‘female’ body- genital chain cameltoe and all (Picture). You kill her (not sure if its mandatory) by strapping her upon a whats known as a wooden horse, a variant of the judas cradle, which is regarded as one of the most horrific torture devices.

So while you kill other bad guys with neutral, yet still horrible torture devices; you kill the sexualized ’female’ bad guy by using sexual torture.

It’s sole purpose was to main genitals inside and out. It is a sexual torture device, and I can’t stand the fact that the most gendered angel is the only one who dies via a device that is ONLY used to main genitals- a sexual specific torture. (Video HERE but I DO NOT RECOMMEND WATCHING IT).

That part that is worse to me is that, no one seems to care, or have noticed that I’ve spoken too. This is one part of the game I find horrific and absolutely unforgivable. I had to get someone else to pay it for me, and was so horrified I couldn’t play the game for around 2 months after that boss came up. This is the reason I don’t recommend anyone play Bayonetta, and personally I find this the most offensive part of the game.

[Trigger warnings: Paedophilia, child sexual abuse] 

A young woman interested in Japanese street fashion was contacted by a documentary maker to model for a documentary about the fashion. Little did she know she was about to become the literal poster child for a film about paedophiles. Upon finding out she was a cover girl for a film called “Are all men paedophiles?” the girl complained to the film maker about being lied too and ask for the poster to be removed. Her request was denied, and it seems she is looking at any legal solutions she may have. 

The documentary itself seems to be very pro-paedophile/ paedophilia apologist and so on, as you can see if you watch the trailer and watch interviews with it’s creator.

I personally have no problem with a film being created to discuss the issue of child sexualization and the like, as it is a problem in our society. Generally I would wait for something like this to be released before making a judgement… However watching the interviews with it’s creator along with the trailer, the blatant and inappropriate advertising / sensationalism and, the fact that women where tricked into being what looks like the poster children for pro-paedophile films- which will of course effect this womans entire life, I feel like this needs to be addressed somehow before it’s release. It’s not professional conduct.

Regardless of how you feel about the film or the ideas behind it; I think most of us can agree that lying to a young woman and making her the poster child of what appears to be a possibly pro-pedophile film against her wishes is not on. This could effect her entire future.

We are petitioning for the poster and image using the woman to be removed, and have the creator issue an apology to the woman and the community she is representing in the documentary. The petition is »here« should you feel you wish to sign it.

For more information please see:

The official movie website: HERE
The facebook picture of the poster, in which the woman pictured tells her story via comments: HERE

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Many women today are under the impression that flashing their breasts in public à la ‘Girls Gone Wild’ or frequenting strip clubs is tantamount to sexual freedom and female empowerment. The belief that the rejection of feminism resulting from these actions is legitimate and perhaps necessary acts as a significant driving force that further perpetuates this kind of behaviour. However, it is imperative that women come to terms with the fact that utilizing rejection and hostility in order to deal with feminist positions from the past does not necessarily expedite the emergence of a new sexual paradigm. The belief that feminism is no longer needed is not only false but naïve. There still exist substantial disparities between gender roles throughout the world, and many individuals’ bigotry remains unscathed regardless of feminist initiatives of the past. However, so many women allow themselves to believe that an increased degree of sexual exhibitionism has the power to somehow render these truths irrelevant. Why, then, does a notion of ‘coolness’ in relation to sexual freedom take precedence over feminist positions that still remain relevant?

I received this in my ask box today and it really rubbed me the wrong way. Maybe I’m just a grumpy-pants today, but I decided to not submit it without adding my reply:

Your presumption that “an increased degree of sexual exhibitionism has the power to somehow render these truths irrelevant” in the minds of sexually liberated women, or those posing as such is an insulting blanket statement and is in my oppinion quite naïve.

I do not beleive that ‘slutty’ women, ‘girls gone wild’, sex workers, adult entertainers and those who enjoy them while being female have anything to do with a rejection of feminism. Your post sounds very slut-shamey to me, and really strips away any personal autonomy from women and girls who aren’t ashamed to enjoy themselves.

While I understand we live in a sex saturated culture and women are influenced and pressured in many ways because of this, I do not think this means no one ever does it by choice, of their own accord, uncoerced as I feel you are suggesting.

Why? Because most of us are sexual creatures. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Sexual liberation is not an evil which must be destroyed.
Sexual freedom is not anti-feminist or heralding its death.
Sexual expression is not always for men, or some sort of nonsense cool factor.

SEXUALITY IS BEAUTIFUL AND USING, DISPLAYING OR ENJOYING IT FOR YOURSELF WHILE BEING A WOMAN IS NOT SOME KIND OF IMPOSSIBILITY.

My sexual exibitionism, expression and experience as a pornography performer, sex worker, and sex worker and sexual rights advocate has NOTHING to do with what will make me ‘cooler’, nor does it make me think I have magical powers and that being a slut will protect me from sexism or some such nonsense. I don’t to it for the men, or the women, for self esteem, because I am uneducated or in some way influenced by the patriarchy and can’t escape all this sexualization. I do it because I love sex, sexual expression and I am an exhibitionist by nature. I am a highly sexual person. I am also not an uncommon type of person. 

I see nothing wrong with ‘perpetuating’ this type of behaviour because there is nothing wrong with women being sexually active in any way or form, as long as it is the choice of that girl or woman, and as long as they are educated, and mentally mature enough to understand what they are doing and the consequences.  

What is empowering and liberating for you may not be for others. That doesn’t mean one is wrong and the other is right, it means they are different. 

In regards to a series of stalking ask messages: Do not ever accuse or insinuate that because I’m part of the sex industry that I promote, encourage, endorse or personally molest and sexually abuse children. I do not care what your religion or your ignorance tells you; but to blatantly accuse me and people like me of a serious legal crime, and what I consider a huge crime against humanity is just not on.

If you continue to send these messages I will not ignore you. I will do everything within my legal rights to have you persecuted and shamed. Do not contact me, ever, ever again via any medium. 

If you are reading this and you are a sex worker, sex pos or pro porn feminist and you have received messages accusing and harassing you that are along the lines of the subject above please contact me. The behaviour of these people is not on and we should stand together should something need to be done about it if the harassment does not stop. 

In an edited version of a speech by Justice Chris Maxwell, president, Court of Appeal, Supreme Court of Victoria, Justice Maxwell tells us how complicated sentencing really is. He said that ‘not enough attention is paid to the core work of the criminal justice system, which is the investigation and prosecution of serious crime, and the conduct of fair trials. The integrity of our trial process is beyond question.’ This completely misses the point- once again. I feel its a way to silence the public when they ask for harsher sentences.

I’m pretty sure no one said sentencing was easy mate. I’m pretty sure also that everyone wants trials to be fair. Thats NOT what the public is complaining about. The complaint is sentencing and how pathetically low it is in this country compared to the rest of the west.

They are complaining about serious criminals who have been found GUILTY recieving TINY sentances in a system that has 0 effective rehabilitation currently. We are complaining about criminals having the lowest conviction rates, lowest sentences and lower time served for serious crimes than almost anywhere in the west.

We are angry that Between 2002 and 2003, more than one in ten convicted rapists in Victoria, Australia, served a wholly suspended sentence, and the average total effective sentence for rape was seven years. 

We are angry  six teenage juveniles did not even have a conviction recorded for gang raping a 10 year old girl, and that they be placed on a 12-month probation order: Because the 10 year old ‘probably wanted it’

We are angry that the average jail sentence for rape between 1999 and 2008 was just over five years- regardless of the ‘type’ of rape.

We are angry a church leader who drugged, strangled, beat on, raped and attempted to murder a young girl by setting her on fire- leaving her with horrific, serious permanent damage that leaves her unable to even care for her basic needs can be out in 16 years on parole.

These examples don’t even touch on murders, or torture. You should see how low sentences are for people who keep, sell and rape slaves!

No one is saying sentencing is easy; what we are saying is that an average of 5 years for horrifically violating someone isn’t good enough, and that 16 years for that plus torture and ATTEMPTED MURDER isn’t good enough. These numbers do not reflect what the public believes is fair. Do not tell us that we ‘just don’t get it’. We know it’s not easy and there are a lot of factors to consider but that doesn’t mean that such low sentences are therefor hunky dory- esp. when other countries similar to us have in some cases double the sentences or ACTUAL life sentences for the crimes we give a slap on the wrist for.

It’s not good enough, Justice Maxwell. The system or your response.