I’m tired of self proclaimed pro-porn feminists (of any gender) saying they dislike how women are treated, abused and portrayed in the majority of pornography. They understand fully the impact that it has on performers and society and they KNOW there are alternatives- pornography which doesn’t promote women as ‘sluts/whores/cumdumpsters/wanting of rape,torture,degradation etc’. Pornography companies who encourage safety in the industry, pay their performers fairly and treat them well. Pornography that is hot as hell to watch and just as explicit without being misogynistic as all hell.

…And yet they still watch abusive, disgusting, degrading pornography on a regular basis. The hypocrisy and willful ignorance astounds me, and I’m curious to know why anyone would choose to participate in a culture of abuse when they know there is an alternative. 

Some of my closest friends are these people and I don’t know what to do about it, if I could or should do anything at all. Policing people’s sexuality isn’t my business. However it make me sick to my stomach knowing that abuse and degradation in a non-respectful or consensual way (like bdsm fantasies etc) floats their boats.

I don’t understand. 
I don’t know what to do.
Maybe I should just cease being friends with them. As someone in the pornography industry I can’t abide by people who support things which directly influence me and others I care for in such a horrible way. 

***for clarification I’m pro -some- bdsm porn, and I’m completely pro consensual BDSM. There is nothing wrong with safe, consensual fantasies or living them out- but like much of the pornography industry many BDSM porn sites treat their performers like shit and are completely disrespectful outside the roleplay and context of the fetish they cater too. I know this from first and second hand industry experience. Many sites don’t even screen models too see if they are even interested in BDSM, instead they just pick up girls desperate for cash and coax them into being beaten, strangled, electrocuted, smothered etc etc; which is disgusting. The friendly, consensual, non-coerced, respectful fantasy BDSM porn where performers are engaged and willing is not what I’m talking about when I say ‘bad porn’***