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This morning my daughter, who is nearly four, saw the stretch marks on my hips and stomach. She ran her hands over them and asked what they were.
“I got them when I grew up,” I said, “and a few more when I had you.” I grinned down at her. “They’re my stripes. You’ll get stripes too when you grow up.”
She was overjoyed. “Really?”
I think she’s in her room now, pretending to be a tiger.
This is what we need to teach.
All work is exploitative. I have experienced actual violence in my soon-to-finish straight job, and no abolitionist has ever given a fig about that. All they care about is shunting women out of sex work and into straight jobs that are often far more oppressive than I have ever found the sex industry to be, or, in this time of a tanking economy, non-existent. Because their precious theory, is why.
Anti-Sex Worker and Porn Bingo!
I’m reblogging this with the caveat that whilst these ARE totally all the anti-sex work arguments that come up, my personal feelings on many of them are complex (I kinda hate porn and do feel it influences men and how they relate sexually to women adversely) and even where some of these arguments have a grain of truth, they are always presented by the antis in a wholly simplistic, shallow and one-dimensional fashion that totally disregards intersectional factors. I’ve actually covered bunches of these issues, check out my sex work tag to see (I am a sex worker who has struggled with substance abuse, has bad self-esteem & poor mental health, has been abused and faced assault & violence & yes, I’d rather be doing something other than sex work - but ‘sex industry’ is not at the root of all my issues, though it intersects with them on some levels! Also I am still for sex worker’s rights as labour rights, I still have other workers’ backs, I still recognise sex work as work & I still maintain that sex workers are the experts on our own lives & that there is NO one fixed experience of sex work & that outsiders invariably PROJECT onto us what they want it to be to justify whatever stance they have and that concern for us is invariably feigned)
Until people respect actual sex workers enough to perceive and comprehend how stigma against sex work contributes to negative working environments, very little progress will ever be made. tl;dr, if you play any of the above squares with no consideration for complexity, intersectionality and the INDIVIDUALS in sex work that you talk over, I hate you.
I hate everyone except other SWs.
in anarchist and riot-grrl and punk cultures and social circles, I am very, very weary of the anti-consumerist rhetoric.
I think so much of the time it’s a supremely privileged perspective to take.
I think it’s incredibly classist and incredibly whorephobic.
Many people in sex work come from impoverished or working class backgrounds. and whilst sex work doesn’t magically erase poverty, it often provides greater remuneration for time expended than most other working stiff jobs. it means a lot of people who previously never had much money occasionally or even often do have a handful of cash that they can afford to burn. which means they have access to luxuries and pleasures and indulgences they did not previously have access to.
expecting sex workers to be politicised by your scenes that overwhelmingly shame the self-indulgence of consumerism without regard to who even has access to consumerism and how and when and through what means, is incredibly arrogant and insensitive and also bullshit politics.
I understand the intent behind anti-consumerist politics, but I think they often are devoid of nuance. but then, what isn’t?
tell ya what, when your alternative anti-consumerist scene doesn’t make me feel unsafe as a hooker, then you can burn my stilettos. until then, shut the fuck up.
i had to dig up this excellent post after an off the cuff remark today from an anarchist hipster queer about how “bourgie” my holiday plans are. lol. gtfo.
aaaahhhhh this is such a good post yes good
*Swims righteously in the Bay of e*.
I totally agree about the lack of nuance, but I don’t think that’s a reason to throw anti-consumerism (or as those of us who actually have politics beyond telling people what not to do call it, sustainability culture) out the window. Especially since the scenes mentioned above are often total hypocrites themselves: I know plenty of punks who own records that cost more than I make in a week. But the point of sustainability culture isn’t to point fingers. It’s to strike against the classist ideas of “money buys happiness” and “material things are the most important.” You’re definitely right when you say this is much easier to do from a privileged background. But, as you stated, those people from a privileged background who give up their wealth just to point fingers at those who have never had it and tell them how “bourgie” (lol) they are aren’t anti-consumerist or anti-capitalist, they’re just trust fund assholes. When we live in a world where there are multiple, fucking over a thousand billionaires in the world and you’re getting on somebody for buying a designer handbag or nice shoes? Fuck that shit. It’s the same self-righteous attitude that can be so vomit-inducing in vegans. It’s definitely a gendered thing too, at least in the anarchist and punk scenes. And good Lorde is there whorephobia, so so so so much whorephobia. Getting rid of these prejudices and recognizing our various degrees of economic privilege is important to practicing sustainability culture: these are huge pervasive problems in these scenes that touch on many issues besides anti-consumerism, so it ain’t going to change over night, but call outs like this are a good start.
Nup nup nup, I am buying a million pairs of Pleasers and NO-ONE is gunna stop me. And goddamned if my happiness won’t rise up and well riiight the fuck outta those plastic sparkles XD :P.
Daniel Lockwood, an expert on prison rape, has posited that sexual aggression in prison can be traced to men’s sexist attitudes toward women, which, in prison, translate into a bias against men placed in female roles.
“No Escape: Male Rape in U.S Prisons.” Human Rights Watch, 2001.
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HOLY FUCKING YES I WISH I COULD POST THIS ON FACEBOOK
shoulda-slapped-a-collar-on-it:
shoulda-slapped-a-collar-on-it:
Here
https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/petition/legalize-sex-work-domination-prostitution-etc/3jjbGTzs
This is the link to the petition! Please, if you are a sex worker- i.e., someone who…
Up to 90 signatures. And I have 745 followers. I’m judging at least 655 of you. HARD.
We could have at least put up a show of support, even if it won’t make the 100k needed. No wonder sex work is still illegal.
This. So much this.
Guys, girls, everyone in between and outside of the spectrum, please.
Don’t just reblog. Don’t just pass this up. This is serious, even though I know some of you don’t understand just how bad things can get for sex workers, please SIGN IT. show your support.We really do need ALL THE HELP we can get.
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