I think we should boycott the Grammy’s to show them there’s no audience for Chris Brown.
Later in February, a photo of Brown riding a jet ski in Miami hit the Internet, and singer Usher was caught on video commenting on it: “I’m a little disappointed in this photo,” Usher says in the video. “After the other photo [of Rihanna’s bruised face]? C’mon, Chris. Have a little bit of remorse, man. The man’s on jet skis? Like, just relaxing in Miami?”
How would you feel about being the poster child for movie about paedophilia? Against your will.
[Trigger warnings: Paedophilia, child sexual abuse]
A young woman interested in Japanese street fashion was contacted by a documentary maker to model for a documentary about the fashion. Little did she know she was about to become the literal poster child for a film about paedophiles. Upon finding out she was a cover girl for a film called “Are all men paedophiles?” the girl complained to the film maker about being lied too and ask for the poster to be removed. Her request was denied, and it seems she is looking at any legal solutions she may have.
The documentary itself seems to be very pro-paedophile/ paedophilia apologist and so on, as you can see if you watch the trailer and watch interviews with it’s creator.
I personally have no problem with a film being created to discuss the issue of child sexualization and the like, as it is a problem in our society. Generally I would wait for something like this to be released before making a judgement… However watching the interviews with it’s creator along with the trailer, the blatant and inappropriate advertising / sensationalism and, the fact that women where tricked into being what looks like the poster children for pro-paedophile films- which will of course effect this womans entire life, I feel like this needs to be addressed somehow before it’s release. It’s not professional conduct.
Regardless of how you feel about the film or the ideas behind it; I think most of us can agree that lying to a young woman and making her the poster child of what appears to be a possibly pro-pedophile film against her wishes is not on. This could effect her entire future.
We are petitioning for the poster and image using the woman to be removed, and have the creator issue an apology to the woman and the community she is representing in the documentary. The petition is »here« should you feel you wish to sign it.
For more information please see:
The official movie website: HERE The facebook picture of the poster, in which the woman pictured tells her story via comments: HERE
The other day I left a kinky website where I was told by the group owner I was wrong for pointing out that rape can occur in an Master/slave relationship. He told me it couldn’t. He said it could happen in a vanilla relationship but not a Master slave relationship. This obviously upset as both a…
People like this site’s owner promote an unhealthy and incorrect idea about what BDSM and kink is all about >:(
For people posting on the #feminism tag who really, really shouldn’t be.
If you want to add anyone reblog with the username and whatever it is that is inappropriate. Please only add people who are actually being inappropriate and are obviously completely vile human beings, not just people having discussions or who aren’t obviously trying to offend.
GIRLS as young as 11 are committing suicide at an unprecedented rate in Northern Territory indigenous communities where family violence is rife. Dr Howard Bath, the territory’s outspoken Children’s Commissioner, told The Saturday Age this week that girls now account for a…
This has been an issue for a long time. Spread the word people. The government needs to do something constructive and worthwhile about this. Sending the army out there isn’t productive.
Unfortunately it looks like the government is completely out of ideas, in my opinion. Even ideas taken from the community and its leaders to solve these problems hasn’t seemed to help any of the issues for those in remote communities to any notable degree :(
“Despite the massive advances in women’s equality, young women’s sexuality is stuck in a surprising paradox. Young women are sold provocative clothes but aren’t taught where to find their own clitoris. Many girls give their boyfriends oral sex, but are too uncomfortable with their own bodies to allow the guys to return the favor. It’s still a radical act to say that women need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure—not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex.”—Dorian Solot, I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide (via boybitch)
[Trigger warning suicide, domestic abuse] Indigenous Australian women hospitalised for assault at 80 times the rate of other women, suicides at record high
GIRLS as young as 11 are committing suicide at an unprecedented rate in Northern Territory indigenous communities where family violence is rife. Dr Howard Bath, the territory’s outspoken Children’s Commissioner, told The Saturday Age this week that girls now account for a previously unheard of 40 per cent of all suicides of children under the age of 17.
The increase in young female suicides coincides with an epidemic of marijuana use and a staggering rise in the number of territory Aboriginal women being admitted to hospital as a result of violence.
"Aboriginal women are being hospitalised for assault at 80 times the rate of other women. It beggars belief.” said Dr Bath. ”Exposure to violence greatly increases the risk of a person taking their life."
Describing the level of violence against women as “horrific”, Dr Bath said he believed the proportion of indigenous girls committing suicide in the territory was now the highest in the Western world.
I love the internet. You won’t find a more staunch enthusiast of online communication than me. Hell, I even have a partner for 15+ years thanks to the internet. I have a rich social life in Amsterdam (and all over Europe, I’d add) that is organized through the internet, I get invited to speak at…
If a guy says he’s in the “friend zone,” idk but maybe, just maybe he’s not asserting that the woman owes him a physical relationship (nor trying to take away her “right to say no.”)…but maybe he just….has….a….crush on her…………..uh..
It could happen. But the general attitude is “Well, she’s with the wrong guy/making the wrong choice/why can’t she see I am the right one for her?” Can you see how this is problematic? No-one, of any gender, should feel that they know what is best for someone else’s relationships - it’s not their place to say what the right choice for their crush is, and it’s condescending as fuck to think otherwise.
udmila-andrea seems to be incorrectly lumping 'women who are sexually liberated' with 'women who reject feminism.' There is probably an overlap but to say that all of one group belongs to the other is being unfair. When asker says "The belief that feminism is no longer needed is not only false but naïve" they are correct, but it's falsely attributed to 'women who flash their breasts in public à la ‘Girls Gone Wild’.'
Rant; and reply (Sexual freedom vs. feminist ideals)
udmila-andrea Many women today are under the impression that flashing their breasts in public à la ‘Girls Gone Wild’ or frequenting strip clubs is tantamount to sexual freedom and female empowerment. The belief that the rejection of feminism resulting from these actions is legitimate and perhaps necessary acts as a significant driving force that further perpetuates this kind of behaviour. However, it is imperative that women come to terms with the fact that utilizing rejection and hostility in order to deal with feminist positions from the past does not necessarily expedite the emergence of a new sexual paradigm. The belief that feminism is no longer needed is not only false but naïve. There still exist substantial disparities between gender roles throughout the world, and many individuals’ bigotry remains unscathed regardless of feminist initiatives of the past. However, so many women allow themselves to believe that an increased degree of sexual exhibitionism has the power to somehow render these truths irrelevant. Why, then, does a notion of ‘coolness’ in relation to sexual freedom take precedence over feminist positions that still remain relevant?
I received this in my ask box today and it really rubbed me the wrong way. Maybe I’m just a grumpy-pants today, but I decided to not submit it without adding my reply:
Your presumption that “an increased degree of sexual exhibitionism has the power to somehow render these truths irrelevant” in the minds of sexually liberated women, or those posing as such is an insulting blanket statement and is in my oppinion quite naïve.
I do not beleive that ‘slutty’ women, ‘girls gone wild’, sex workers, adult entertainers and those who enjoy them while being female have anything to do with a rejection of feminism. Your post sounds very slut-shamey to me, and really strips away any personal autonomy from women and girls who aren’t ashamed to enjoy themselves.
While I understand we live in a sex saturated culture and women are influenced and pressured in many ways because of this, I do not think this means no one ever does it by choice, of their own accord, uncoerced as I feel you are suggesting.
Why? Because most of us are sexual creatures. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Sexual liberation is not an evil which must be destroyed. Sexual freedom is not anti-feminist or heralding its death. Sexual expression is not always for men, or some sort of nonsense cool factor.
SEXUALITY IS BEAUTIFUL AND USING, DISPLAYING OR ENJOYING IT FOR YOURSELF WHILE BEING A WOMAN IS NOT SOME KIND OF IMPOSSIBILITY.
My sexual exibitionism, expression and experience as a pornography performer, sex worker, and sex worker and sexual rights advocate has NOTHING to do with what will make me ‘cooler’, nor does it make me think I have magical powers and that being a slut will protect me from sexism or some such nonsense. I don’t to it for the men, or the women, for self esteem, because I am uneducated or in some way influenced by the patriarchy and can’t escape all this sexualization. I do it because I love sex, sexual expression and I am an exhibitionist by nature. I am a highly sexual person. I am also not an uncommon type of person.
I see nothing wrong with ‘perpetuating’ this type of behaviour because there is nothing wrong with women being sexually active in any way or form, as long as it is the choice of that girl or woman, and as long as they are educated, and mentally mature enough to understand what they are doing and the consequences.
What is empowering and liberating for you may not be for others. That doesn’t mean one is wrong and the other is right, it means they are different.
If a heroine is especially good at anything, even if it’s just one thing and she’s spent years working on that skill, she may get called a Mary Sue. If she’s a relatively well-balanced individual without PTSD and a string of broken relationships and powerful enemies hunting her from the get-go, she may get called a Mary Sue. If there’s anything about her life that you would enjoy in your own, she may get called a Mary Sue.
In short, if she’s the protagonist of the story and there’s anything admirable about her, then to some readers, she’s a Mary Sue.
“I swear to god I will lose my mind if I hear the “sex sells” fallacy one more time. Sex does not sell. If sex sold, we would see penises where we see boobs. Naked men would be on everything that naked women are on. Sex isn’t what they’re selling you. They’re selling you an impossible, pornographically fueled misogynistic idea of the perfect woman.”—(via littlelightx)
make ragecomics about being friend zoned or about the enigmatic and laughable nature of women
whine more than a 5 year old while complaining that women are over emotional
tag your tumblr posts with “woman logic” and “stupid females”
go after psychotic women and then decide to wage war on the female sex because YOU picked shitty girlfriends
refer to yourself as a “nice guy”
continually pursue women who have made it very clear to you that they aren’t interested
assume every woman that you’re nice to owes you sex
lose your shit when you find out a girl thinks of you as a friend rather than a love interest
complain about how women “ONLY GO AFTER JERKS!!!” as you attempt to emotionally manipulate women into dating you
complain that women are vain and care too much about clothes and makeup, but only go after fashionable ladies who look like pinup models.
cry when said gorgeous women are only interested in handsome, fashionable men.
be tactless and overbearing in trying to be “chivalrous.” make sure to smother your friend-girls and treat them like delicate, kitchen-dwelling glass butterflies! never let them open their own doors or make their own decisions. EVER.
refer to yourself as antifeminist or a men’s rights activist. of course, this will probably keep you from being “friend zoned” at all, because no woman will want to be friends with you.
“My point is that feminists are not biological determinists. Feminists are the least likely people to say ‘all men are bastards’. Some of them might say ‘many men behave like bastards’. But they don’t imply that such behaviour is acceptable because its genetic or ‘natural’ for men to behave that way, like those arguments defending rapists which imply that men are really all just stupid cavemen who can’t be blamed when they rape because, hey, men just can’t help it when they see someone in a mini skirt. Feminists don’t write books about how men are genetically incapable of picking up an iron. Feminists don’t write books about how men are from another planet, one where men have to be left ‘in their cave’ because they just don’t have proper emotions like women do. That’s because actually, feminists think men should be treated as fully functional human beings with brains and morals who should be held responsible for the choices they make.”—‘Feminists are Sexist’ - Features - The F-Word (via learntoofly)
“It’s highly flawed to talk about the impact of “pornography” on young people as if it were a monolithic entity. Of course there is some porn which contributes to the general objectification of women in visual media. Some porn is misogynistic, tasteless and dehumanising. But to tar all sexually explicit content with the same brush shows a woeful ignorance of what’s out there. A lot of porn is pro-woman; even more is pro-human, quite simply a celebration of real human sexual expression without any strong bias either way.”—Pandora Blake (porn, like sex work, defies easy generalisations | Spanked, Not Silenced)
“The problem is, real people buy sex, and real people sell sex. The numbers on how many people are involved in the sex trade are notoriously hard to gather, or trust, but there is one constant: buyers are not buying people. When politicians, social service providers and celebrity philanthropists insist that sex workers are selling ourselves, they engage in the same kind of dehumanisation that they claim johns do to us. When they claim that men can buy us, they rob us of our power and our choices.”—
I really wonder how long it will take for it to sink in that sex workers sell a service, not their bodies. I’m a theatre major and have also been paid for some modeling I do. Both of these involve me using my body and skills to provide a service that I am paid for (at least I’m hoping it’s a paid job). Still, no one is claiming that anyone paying the ticket price for a show owns my body. Neither do any of the photographers I’ve worked with. The same thing applies to sex workers.