Just saw your post on that "Mind Control" documentary, sans commentary. I would have really liked to see your (assumingly glaringly negative) opinion on it.
Without going into too much detail on the subject because it makes me rage, and because I’m about to go to on a date:
I hate it, I hate the idea of it, and I hate who ever made it. I also honestly believe things like this are causing the problems that are making things like this “necessary” (barf). If society and douchebags like this stopped reinforcing the virgin/whore bullshit and its derivatives, along with being so disgusting, exploitive, abusive and predatory, it would be a step towards women not having to guard their sexuality and selves from monsters like this guy, and society in general.
It’s the worst of niceguyism and PUA all in one, and they have no one to blame but themselves for “needing” to be abusive, predatory and disgusting human beings.
(Hope that made sense, started my date partying a little bit early with some drinks!)
Filmmaker Reports Porn Stars Enraged Over Documentary That Teaches Men How to Manipulate Women
LOS ANGELES, March 19, 2012 /PRNewswire/ — First time filmmaker Lacy Burke wanted to use porn stars in his documentary for one reason — “porn stars could never be considered naive or inexperienced,” says Burke. The documentary demonstrates to audiences, presumably male audiences, how to use mind control techniques to influence women and manipulate their choices. “Of course these techniques will work on the average girl at your local bar. I wanted to use porn stars because they are savvy. If mind control tactics work on them, then they will work on any woman,” Burke explains.
According to Burke, porn stars Victoria White and Charlie Laine tell a different story. Both women declined to be interviewed, but their opinion of the documentary “Car Date” is clear from their messages on Twitter, Facebook and other social media. “It appears that they regret having participated in the film. What isn’t clear is why. It seems inane, but could it be possible that even porn stars can feel used and taken advantage of?” says Burke.
Burke states that after a screening of the film, it is clear why White and Laine are offended and even resentful. When he hired the girls, Burke did not tell them that the film was meant to demonstrate methods of mind control. “If I had told them what I was up to, it would have ruined the whole experiment,” Burke said with a devilish grin on his face. For about 50 minutes, audiences see the girls reacting to Burke, but it is through voiceovers and subtitles, added later in the editing phase of production, that Burke reveals which mind control techniques he is using and shows us how the girls’ behavior falls right in line.
Despite the porn stars feeling exploited, this documentary is getting big reactions from audiences and positive feedback from heavy-hitters in the porn industry, such as Wicked Pictures. There are moments in this film that make you cringe, moments that make you think and, admittedly, moments that you file away under “I’ve got to remember this…that was brilliant.” The film is controversial, but it is also original, cheeky and unapologetically bold. A mixture of Taxi-Cab Confessions and The Game, this documentary is a powerful glimpse into the minds of women and the methods men can use to influence them.
TW Rape: Morocco protest against rape-marriage law
Morocco’s penal code allows a rapist to marry his victim if she is a minor as a way of avoiding prosecution. A 16-year-old girl, Amina Filali, killed herself a week ago after being severely beaten during a forced marriage to her rapist.
Yes, you can. There is no official test or an educational checklist for being a feminist. Not everyone knows or had been exposed to everything about everything. Minority issues and intersectionality are complicated issues and while some may know about certain issues, movements, cultures and the…
I humbly disagree. Feminism is equality for all women, so that includes women affected by racism, ableism, and heterosexism. What you’re talking about is feminism for white, straight, cis-gendered women, which doesn’t help a lot of us.
^^^ THIS. You can ID as a feminist without being aware of minority issues but that’s not the problem here. The problem is lots of feminists not caring about other minority issues in the slightest and therefore not making space for a heck of a lot of people.
Agreed, that is the issue. There is a big difference between having no exposure or knowledge of a subject, and closing yourself off and not caring or learning about about the issues other minorities, within and outside the feminism movement. My point is that those things are completely different, and that being uneducated does not mean someone isn’t a feminist. As I said, it means they are uneducated.
Regarding: "You can't be /aren't a feminist if you dont understand or know about racism, ableism, trans* folk, GLBQ, xyz"
Yes, you can. There is no official test or an educational checklist for being a feminist. Not everyone knows or had been exposed to everything about everything. Minority issues and intersectionality are complicated issues and while some may know about certain issues, movements, cultures and the like, they may not understand them. That does not mean those people are not feminists, or real feminists. It means they are uneducated feminists.
To me, being a feminist is about wanting equality for women, whatever that should mean for each individual woman, and it is about being willing to listen and learn from other minorities and those with differing perspectives.
Keep in mind that the Marriage Equality Bill of 2012 amends the Marriage Act 1961 to: remove discriminatory references based on sexual orientation and gender identity; and allow marriage regardless of sex, sexual orientation or gender identity, and the Marriage Amendment Bill of 2012 amends the Marriage Act 1961 to: enable same-sex marriages to be recognised; and place no obligation on a minister of religion to solemnise a same-sex marriage.
Both were introduced last month, and hope to be passed by the end of the year.
“True gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.”
My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality – my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.”—
Also the study where they had women and men talking in a discussion and when women spoke around 30% of the time, men perceived them as dominating the discussion. They didn’t consider it “equal” until something like 5-10% of women talking.
One of the most irksome things I hear when I make arguments for ‘good/positive portrayals’ of characters from traditionally marginalised backgrounds is that my interlocutors immediately assume I’m calling for portrayals of moral paragons. They seem to think I’m saying “if you write a gay male character, he must be the most righteous dude ever.”
In a word, no. That’s what today’s article is about, particularly with regards to women characters.
The reality of the situation is that the portrayal of women as pure, stainless alabaster icons of virtue is a huge problem that arises from cultural stereotypes of women. The notion that women are inherently more virtuous, kinder, and so on is part of the limiting and fetishising pedestalisation that serves to fence us off from being thought of as persons. Human beings are flawed characters with failings and weaknesses; angels are not.
When I call for ‘good portrayals’ I do not mean that all women should be virtuous. On the contrary, I actually want to see more women as villains, or as morally grey/dubious characters. The simple reason for this is that such figures can be fascinating, merit much discussion, and are fully human. Think of your own interests in fiction: what characters do you love to hate? Who is your favourite villain? What character could keep you up for hours at night as you discuss their philosophy and the writing behind them? Which characters have you debating their morality: good, evil, anti-hero? We all have answers to these questions, and that alone tells us why ‘good portrayals’ include morally flawed/villainous characters by necessity.
My objection to femme fatale villains is not that they are villains, but that women’s agency is always reduced to sexuality in such portrayals. Consider the Drow from Dungeons & Dragons, for instance. The women are defined by rampant, unchained sexuality that is used to literally dominate men. There’s nothing interesting in this, save as a rather specific form of pornography perhaps. Moral weakness, failure, compromise, and villainy are about much more complicated motivations than luring men to their dooms with T&A.
My favourite character of all time is a woman who is widely considered a villain: Kreia from Knights of the Old Republic II. My love letter about this character can be found here, but for the purposes of this article the main points to raise about are these: her character is defined by a philosophy, she is not reduced to sex, she is an agent whose motivations are complicated, her morality shades into a good deal of grey.
It’s hard to peg Kreia as pure evil. She isn’t. Her overarching, long-term goal is ultimately a positive one: she wants to eliminate the new Sith threat as much as you do (if you’re a light-side character), but for her the ends justify the means. Throughout the story you’re treated to many examples of Kreia’s richly self-justified taint manifesting itself in odious actions that service the greater good she has in mind. She is utterly driven by hard-won truths in a life that has been struck by torture, betrayal, and the harshest kind of learning. It produces a figure who is conscious of how far she has fallen, but will use her last gasps of energy to train someone who “may yet be saved.”
If you are a moral idealist, as I try to be, her incredibly well-written dialogue will force you to account in detail for why you believe what you believe. You may disagree strongly with what Kreia does, but you cannot deny she has her reasons—reasons she’ll talk about at length which define her character.
This is far more interesting than what we usually get.
The doctor and nurse were professional and kind, and it was clear that they understood our sorrow. They too apologized for what they had to do next. For the third time that day, I exposed my stomach to an ultrasound machine, and we saw images of our sick child forming in blurred outlines on the screen.
“I’m so sorry that I have to do this,” the doctor told us, “but if I don’t, I can lose my license.” Before he could even start to describe our baby, I began to sob until I could barely breathe. Somewhere, a nurse cranked up the volume on a radio, allowing the inane pronouncements of a DJ to dull the doctor’s voice. Still, despite the noise, I heard him. His unwelcome words echoed off sterile walls while I, trapped on a bed, my feet in stirrups, twisted away from his voice.
Society already accepts your body as the norm - as what’s beautiful - as what’s right.
I’m not going to keep spending my time reminding you that your body “is okay too” when you won’t even acknowledge bodies like mine exist.
This isn’t about you. It’s about me. I’m demanding a space in this world, so go ahead and keep complaining that I’m taking up too much of it already. I’ll laugh in your fucking face.
This so fucking much. Society ALREADY validates you, skinny people. Why the fuck should fat people have to consistently include you in conversations about US?
I don’t usually entertain these things buttttttttt I’m in a mood :)
The hostile environment of the world hurts EVERYONE. Thin bodies, racialized bodies, trans* bodies, fat bodies, disabled bodies, etc etc etc.
You don’t have to include anyone in your conversations, but also it would help you greatly to keep in mind that fat acceptance as a movement doesn’t do enough and body acceptance really struggles to give everyone a voice and acknowledge that no bodies are safe.
TW: Rape, torture. What I dislike about rape scenes in entertainment film
Firstly I’d just like to say this is my personal view and experience alone.
While rape, sexual assault and abuse of anyone are stories that deserve to be told, even when it is done in a respectful and tasteful manner I feel as if it’s just redundant. Why?
1. Because it is incredibly traumatizing for me, as a victim, and many others like me.
2. While they are important stories to make people understand why these things are wrong and deliver the real, hard-hitting, disgusting and unforgivable truth of what rape and abuse are; it doesn’t make people understand. Because they can’t. Ever. You can not empathise or truly comprehend unless it’s happened to you; in which case more likely than not seeing something so brutal might put you in the first category, and certainly doesn’t educate you more than the experience.
We can’t reach people in the way these things often intend too, and I wonder if overall scenes and storylines depicting realistic sexual violence do more harm than good and education. Maybe I’m just having one of those lost faith in humanity days.
Ohio state Sen. Nina Turner (D) isn’t happy with bills that seek to control women’s access to contraception and abortion. She has joined a trend across the nation by introducing a bill thatwould require men seeking a prescription for erectile dysfunction drugs to see a sex therapist, receive a cardiac stress test and “get a notarized affidavit signed by a sexual partner affirming impotency.” Sex therapists would be required to present the option of “celibacy as a viable lifestyle choice.”
I’d just like to ask people to keep in mind that while discussing race, racism, gender or law that: not everything is about the USA, it’s people and it’s history. Some (most) discussions are, but some are not and that is ok.
You may be a minority of a race, gender, country, law system or some other which is actively or passively oppressed but that does not give you the right to silence others who suffer and demand they play in the oppression Olympics. MANY oppressed people don’t get voices at all in the West and are completely ignored because they are not Americans or the “right” PoC, and that is not on, by anyone. Ever. It’s a good thing to think about, talk about and criticize the way things currently are and look at intersectionality but sometimes your voices are not important to the conversation- and that is ok.
I just saw someone try and shut down an Indigenous Australian from feminist discussion which started out as her telling her story, and heard her be told that she knew nothing about race/racism because “her tribe” were not slaves, she wasn’t a “real PoC”, and that her experiences and voice on gender/race weren’t important because of that.
I should not have to explain how that is wrong on every level and it’s something I’d like you to consider next time you enter into a conversation about race, gender, law, politics etc and you most likely automatically assume it’s a conversation about the USA, it’s peoples and its history.
Governments are constructing social policy based on misrepresentations and stereotypes about poor people and welfare claimants, rather than by reference to the structural inequalities that affect everyone.
I think it would be difficult, if not impossible, to deny that video games have become a very large part of mainstream culture. The past twenty years have seen the gaming industry skyrocket, and the last ten years have been of particular importance. While video games have been popular ever since…
I recently read a post by lenadreamsingold, a young woman WOC who posts about “my beliefs and social injustices I face and other women of color face”. This particular post was about self-serving misogynists or what she called the self-appointed male delegates for black womanhood. I have…
And until you’ve been raped, you don’t really wake up and see how much rape is out there for the casual consumer. You didn’t really hear those offhand comments when walking down the street – “oh, you know she totally made that up for attention” – you didn’t really notice that the sex scene in Blade Runner actually really looks like a fucking rape scene, you didn’t really hear how the TV news focuses on what she was wearing, and calls it “sex,” and digs for details about where and how he penetrated her, when you don’t really need to know that, do you? And you don’t realize how many of the people you know and love do not take rape seriously, because they have been sucking up all the same TV shows and movies you do, and they don’t think they know a real person who has been raped. Of course, some of them you might tell, and they can accept that, accept the secondary trauma, begin to start thinking of you whenever they see a rape in a movie, hear of one on the news, hear a rape joke. Or they can disqualify you as a real person. Guess which one happens most.
Consent, how does it work? They’re all medical instruments, they’re not inherently “rape devices” and no one is suggesting they are. It’s how they’re used and whether or not there’s consent present. All kinds of innocuous objects can be terrifying if used against you in a way you don’t consent to. A transvaginal ultrasound wand is just that, a medical tool. One that’s been used for early ultrasounds with little fanfare for a long time because they were necessary. But when the government comes in to mandate an expensive, invasive, and medically unnecessary procedure it’s no longer an instrument used in consensual manner. It’s not the nature of the instrument used that can, and does, make it object rape, but the invasive force used behind it.
Honestly, with all these bad analogies used by antichoicers, you prove over and over that the simple concept of consent continues to elude you. It’s terrifying, actually.
A police officer voluntarily came forward in my country admitting he sexually abused two young girls, selling his house and all his assets to give the victims everything he could, sparing them a traumatizing trial, while still allowing them to read their full victim impact statements to him and the court. While this is a horrible crime, I can’t think of anything better an offender could do to give some sort of closure to his victims.