make ragecomics about being friend zoned or about the enigmatic and laughable nature of women
whine more than a 5 year old while complaining that women are over emotional
tag your tumblr posts with “woman logic” and “stupid females”
go after psychotic women and then decide to wage war on the female sex because YOU picked shitty girlfriends
refer to yourself as a “nice guy”
continually pursue women who have made it very clear to you that they aren’t interested
assume every woman that you’re nice to owes you sex
lose your shit when you find out a girl thinks of you as a friend rather than a love interest
complain about how women “ONLY GO AFTER JERKS!!!” as you attempt to emotionally manipulate women into dating you
complain that women are vain and care too much about clothes and makeup, but only go after fashionable ladies who look like pinup models.
cry when said gorgeous women are only interested in handsome, fashionable men.
be tactless and overbearing in trying to be “chivalrous.” make sure to smother your friend-girls and treat them like delicate, kitchen-dwelling glass butterflies! never let them open their own doors or make their own decisions. EVER.
refer to yourself as antifeminist or a men’s rights activist. of course, this will probably keep you from being “friend zoned” at all, because no woman will want to be friends with you.
“My point is that feminists are not biological determinists. Feminists are the least likely people to say ‘all men are bastards’. Some of them might say ‘many men behave like bastards’. But they don’t imply that such behaviour is acceptable because its genetic or ‘natural’ for men to behave that way, like those arguments defending rapists which imply that men are really all just stupid cavemen who can’t be blamed when they rape because, hey, men just can’t help it when they see someone in a mini skirt. Feminists don’t write books about how men are genetically incapable of picking up an iron. Feminists don’t write books about how men are from another planet, one where men have to be left ‘in their cave’ because they just don’t have proper emotions like women do. That’s because actually, feminists think men should be treated as fully functional human beings with brains and morals who should be held responsible for the choices they make.”—‘Feminists are Sexist’ - Features - The F-Word (via learntoofly)
“It’s highly flawed to talk about the impact of “pornography” on young people as if it were a monolithic entity. Of course there is some porn which contributes to the general objectification of women in visual media. Some porn is misogynistic, tasteless and dehumanising. But to tar all sexually explicit content with the same brush shows a woeful ignorance of what’s out there. A lot of porn is pro-woman; even more is pro-human, quite simply a celebration of real human sexual expression without any strong bias either way.”—Pandora Blake (porn, like sex work, defies easy generalisations | Spanked, Not Silenced)
“The problem is, real people buy sex, and real people sell sex. The numbers on how many people are involved in the sex trade are notoriously hard to gather, or trust, but there is one constant: buyers are not buying people. When politicians, social service providers and celebrity philanthropists insist that sex workers are selling ourselves, they engage in the same kind of dehumanisation that they claim johns do to us. When they claim that men can buy us, they rob us of our power and our choices.”—
I really wonder how long it will take for it to sink in that sex workers sell a service, not their bodies. I’m a theatre major and have also been paid for some modeling I do. Both of these involve me using my body and skills to provide a service that I am paid for (at least I’m hoping it’s a paid job). Still, no one is claiming that anyone paying the ticket price for a show owns my body. Neither do any of the photographers I’ve worked with. The same thing applies to sex workers.
(Trigger warning: Stalking, child abuse, sexual abuse)
In regards to a series of stalking ask messages: Do not ever accuse or insinuate that because I’m part of the sex industry that I promote, encourage, endorse or personally molest and sexually abuse children. I do not care what your religion or your ignorance tells you; but to blatantly accuse me and people like me of a serious legal crime, and what I consider a huge crime against humanity is just not on.
If you continue to send these messages I will not ignore you. I will do everything within my legal rights to have you persecuted and shamed. Do not contact me, ever, ever again via any medium.
If you are reading this and you are a sex worker, sex pos or pro porn feminist and you have received messages accusing and harassing you that are along the lines of the subject above please contact me. The behaviour of these people is not on and we should stand together should something need to be done about it if the harassment does not stop.
While minor offences such as soliciting are still pursued, the police shifted their focus to protecting sex workers and building relationships of trust with them.
In 2006, Merseyside police was the first and so far only force in the country to declare crimes against sex workers as “hate crime”.
The results have been dramatic. In the five years before the new way of working began to take effect in 2007, there was just one conviction for a series of assaults against sex workers.
Now the overall conviction rate for crimes against sex workers is 84%, with a 67% conviction rate for rape. The national average conviction rate for rape is just 6.5%.
Last year in Liverpool there were 10 convictions for rape and several more men have been charged and are awaiting trial in 2011, some for multiple rapes as well as other violent offences.
Detective Superintendent Tim Keelan said: “These women are very vulnerable, and our priority is to protect them. We are seeing interest from a number of other police forces in our model and we have set up a Unity team – the only joint police and CPS team in the country – to help prosecute offenders.”
“Misogyny is a systematic and institutionalized form of bigotry and oppression that permeates through every aspect of our society in ways that can be obvious or more subtle (rape culture and its perpetuation can be obvious or subtle and can sometimes be difficult for a man who has never felt its effects to detect, but either way it’s horrifying.) Misandry is not systematic and it is not institutionalized. The distrust or hatred of men is a rational reaction to misogyny, which is ubiquitous and static. Statements like “can’t we all just be friends?” assume that there exists a level playing field. Until this level playing field truly exists, statements like these can easily be dismissed as childish, naive, shallow, frivolous and boring.”—
My response to a man asking “can’t we all just be friends?” and “isn’t misandry just as bad as misogyny?” (via sixtyforty)
ugh I want to staple this to the “what about the menz??!” faux-feminist guys on my course.
I think the tumblr saviour add-on might be a good option for those who want to follow but have certain triggers. I know it has filtered posts for me even when the term was not a tag. If it catches the words in a post, it should block them and tell you "x post is blocked because it contains the tags/words _______". Hope this may be of some help : ).
Thanks for the suggestion. I didn’t even know such things existed :)
The majority of posts here contain subjects which relate to triggering material. The vast majority. I do not have the time to add trigger warnings, change titles, censor or check tags for every post. All posts written by me will have appropriate tags and warnings, but reblogs (which are 99.9% of the time things linked to me via twitter, tumblr ask and email- not things that I post while browsing- because I don’t have the time) generally will not due to time constraints.
THIS IS SOMETHING CLEARLY STATED ON THIS BLOG AND IN THE INFORMATION SECTION. This is something that will not change due to time constraints. I already post barely once in week or month as it is lately.
I understand this may cause issues for people and so I recommend should you not wish to see posts containing this material when they may not have trigger warnings, for your own well being that you unfollow this blog.
If we teach women that there are only certain ways they may acceptably behave, we should not be surprised when they behave in those ways.
And we should not be surprised when they behave these ways during attempted or completed rapes.
Women who are taught not to speak up too loudly or too forcefully or too adamantly or too demandingly are not going to shout “NO” at the top of their goddamn lungs just because some guy is getting uncomfortably close.
Women who are taught not to keep arguing are not going to keep saying “NO.”
Women who are taught that their needs and desires are not to be trusted, are fickle and wrong and are not to be interpreted by the woman herself, are not going to know how to argue with “but you liked kissing, I just thought…”
Women who are taught that physical confrontations make them look crazy will not start hitting, kicking, and screaming until it’s too late, if they do at all.
Women who are taught that a display of their emotional state will have them labeled hysterical and crazy (which is how their perception of events will be discounted) will not be willing to run from a room disheveled and screaming and crying.
Women who are taught that certain established boundaries are frowned upon as too rigid and unnecessary are going to find themselves in situations that move further faster before they realize that their first impression was right, and they are in a dangerous room with a dangerous person.
Women who are taught that refusing to flirt back results in an immediately hostile environment will continue to unwillingly and unhappily flirt with somebody who is invading their space and giving them creep alerts.
People wonder why women don’t “fight back,” but they don’t wonder about it when women back down in arguments, are interrupted, purposefully lower and modulate their voices to express less emotion, make obvious signals that they are uninterested in conversation or being in closer physical proximity and are ignored. They don’t wonder about all those daily social interactions in which women are quieter, ignored, or invisible, because those social interactions seem normal. They seem normal to women, and they seem normal to men, because we were all raised in the same cultural pond, drinking the same Kool-Aid.
And then, all of a sudden, when women are raped, all these natural and invisible social interactions become evidence that the woman wasn’t truly raped. Because she didn’t fight back, or yell loudly, or run, or kick, or punch. She let him into her room when it was obvious what he wanted. She flirted with him, she kissed him. She stopped saying no, after a while.