August 2011
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New York Times: Why has the pendulum swung back to... →
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“Sending me triggering anal rape porn and death threats because you disagree with...”
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Personal Thoughts On Anal Sex
I have had anal sex maybe five or six times I would say and the first time I tried it, I was super excited. Every time I have done it, it was fun and intimate and sexy and felt really good. I am definitely interested in trying a lot of different things with sex, and so to me, anal was more of a thing on a list of “Things to Try In Bed.”
I do know that in recent times with the...
I apologize for any offense caused by the carelessness of my phrasing and post structure. As Sanfo said: “When you frame your question within a wall of negative text, I think it’s pretty clear what your position is, and what kind of answers you’re expecting to receive.”
My aim was not and is not to shame anyone. I’m not sure what I can say to clarify any more. I’ve removed...
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Madasphodel:: Do women 'like' anal sex? →
madasphodel:
personally I don’t feel one way or another about anal sex, but I feel like the point of this post—which has been way, WAY lost in translation—is that there’s an increasing expectation for porn stars and ordinary women to engage in anal sex without a proper examination of 1) potential health risks (which, as usual, porn does not address) 2) why anal sex is now a porn norm (and how...
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“Teen girls are not a separate species - they walk among us. They see and hear...”
– Emily Maguire: Sugar, spice and stronger stuff (via thesexmyth)
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The Personal is Political: Do women 'like' anal... →
thepersonalispolitic:
I already put this in tumblinfeminist’s ask box but I wanted to a) respond more in-depth (considering the ridiculous character limit) and b) respond publicly because I personally find this to be a really important topic - esp in light of the questions raised. This will be long, it will be graphic, and it will be as openly honest as I am capable of being so if you can’t...
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Dancingfrogger: Women and Anal Sex →
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Mainstream American porn has really normalized anal sex and that’s what the problem is, it’s that many women are being pressured to take it whether they like it or not because of it’s become so normal even though many women don’t like it and never will. So yes you might like it but to expect other women to like it is the problem, so is how there’s little honest discussion about...
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Feminist Media Criticism, George R.R. Martin’s A... →
cookingbaconshirtless:
A very interesting read. Contains slight spoilers.
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Magpie's nest: I argued that what was really being... →
I argued that what was really being sold was men’s (presumably heterosexual) sexual subjectivity, the experience of being a person in the world who was presented with images that were for his titillation. Women do not live in the world this way. They are not exposed everyday to images that legitimize their lust; instead, the images teach women that they are the object of that lust.
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RE: I’m not sure how saying “I don’t like anal... →
sanfo:
Are you really suggesting you wrote about it from an open-minded perspective? That’s not how it reads- you frequently repeated how much you just couldn’t understand how women make these decisions, and placed doubt on their intentions and ability to make informed decisions.
Nobody owes you an explanation for their behaviour. If someone likes an activity and engages in it consensually,...
activistaabsentee asked: Thank you for the discussion, though I'm sorry people are starting to cut up and rearrange your OP!
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I’m not sure how saying “I don’t like anal sex, this is my expereince, these are my reasons why and these are my concerns” and then asking to hear from people who don’t agree to educate myself and understand (as most resources on it are from unbiased pro gonzo porn groups, ask alive/askmen/yahoo answers- all of which are unreliable) is body or sexuality...
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Anal sex & feminism- From a fan of anal sex
I like anal. The first time I tried it, it hurt momentarily, but that’s because I hadn’t had fingers or toys in there for a while. With lube and condoms, it was really good, and I experience a totally different kind of pleasure with it, mixed with clitoral stimulation. For me, clitoral + anal stimulation is the most intense out of anything I’ve tried before (and that’s a...
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that awkward moment when the Women's Studies shelf...
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Social Justice League: Burqas and Bikinis
“…Interestingly, the exact same situation arises when women appear in the public sphere wearing very revealing, highly “sexy” clothing and presenting themselves in an overtly sexual manner. It should be perfectly obvious that there is absolutely nothing wrong with any individual woman choosing to do this. It is every woman’s right to dress in the way she chooses, and if she wants to go...
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Social Justice League: A Duty to Justice →
A well written piece by Connie from the Social Justice League on her experiences studying law in Australia and dealing with rape culture, barristers and advocates that support slut-shaming and victim-blaming as ways of conducting rape and sexual assault cases, and how they justify playing on prejudices to win cases instead of fighting for true justice.
I highly recommend reading the full peice;...
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united states of meryl: I'm sorry (not sorry) →
unitedstatesofmeryl:
What is so difficult for some cismen to grasp about, “All men are potential rapists”? I mean, maybe I kinda get it? Theoretically, it really could (should?) read, “Everyone is a potential rapist.”
However, considering that 99% of rapists are men, doesn’t it make sense that as males (or those of us read as males) we should just shut the frak up, check our privilege and...
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Drake and The Failure of Pro-Feminist Hip-Hop →
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Ethical Slut
dateboy:
I can sell my body and still be a saint. Men can tie me up Hell, women can too. But they’ll never bound my freedom my tongue my virtue So, I’ll keep turning tricks while you jut your noses to the sky. Not a victim, Nor the culprit. I go by my own pace Afterall it’s my body; for me to dictate. to dominate to appreciate
This is probably my favorite poem I’ve written in a long,...
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Law reform targets ‘honor' crimes →
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Military rape and PTSD →
kittensfoodandfeminism:
”“Now get up and approach again,” he shouted. Maricela stood, but couldn’t move. She was frozen. Her supervisor’s voice got louder, his tone more enraged: “Do you think I have all day? Drop and give me another twenty.” She did. This time the tears fell out of her eyes, splashing on the floor below…. Maricela wouldn’t attempt to tell anyone else about her rape for...
fromonesurvivortoanother asked: In Gerda Lerner's The Creation of Patriarchy, she proposes that patriarchal structures began precisely because of the power that women held in controlling the flow of population. Having more people meant having more workers, and so tribes started to traffic, trade, and capture women as a means of accumulating power. So a shortage of women would indeed become a huge issue-- the film Children...
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bmoburns asked: Can you explain the concern or fact that the 'End of History and the Last Woman' is trying to express?
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“Realize that anyone who tries to put you down about your appearance is assuming...”
– Skeptifem (in this interview: http://teenskepchick.org/2011/07/14/teen-skepchick-interviews-skeptifem/ )
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Why modern feminism is "illogical, unnecessary,... →
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linhinabin:
I don’t know that I completely agree with this article, but the author makes some good, valid points. Some quoteworthy parts:
“The fact that men and women are fundamentally different and want different things makes it difficult to compare their welfare directly, to assess which sex is better off; for example, the fact that women make less money than men cannot by...
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Woman Suing for Sexual Harassment is Called "Too... →
mindneverstops:
I cannot explain the magnitude of the disgust I feel for all of the men she’s suing, her boss and the entire culture of the firm. My heart goes out to this woman. Let me be clear, this is not just her problem; this is a systematic injustice about how women and their bodies are thought of and treated. This is not ok. This is the enemy.
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Am I the only one who finds the stereotype that... →
shakethegoldenbarley:
Am I the only one who finds the stereotype that women aren’t supposed to enjoy giving their (mostly cis male) partners oral sex more than a little fucked up?
Like, I’m sure that there are a lot of women who don’t enjoy giving oral sex for whatever reason, but there are also a lot who do (myself…
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“Rape, argue my disbelieving correspondents, happens in a world full of people....”
– Melissa McEwan (via margaretschroeder)
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Why feminism must embrace reason and shun religion →
It is as though mainstream feminism has a ‘blind spot’ when it comes to religion, but it is not alone in this. Religion has managed to carve itself a very nice niche in society whereby any questioning of religious faith is seen to be extremely bad form. Religion seems to have a monopoly on hurt feelings, entirely unfairly in my opinion. It seems to me that some feminists are afraid of a critical...
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Petition for girl suspended for "public displays... →
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I don't need to be a feminist because I'm a...
Stupid post of the week goes too OP
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“Black feminist criticism would by definition be highly innovative, embodying the...”
– Barbara Smith, “Toward a Black Feminist Criticism” (1977), Reprinted in All the Women are White, All the Blacks are Men, But Some of Us are Brave (via agradschoolbreakup)
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Girls who try to empower their gender by policing...
hypoallergeniccannibals:
You are the enemy. Go away.
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Social Justice League: Fauxgress Watch: "Gentlemen...
If we want to end cultural pressure on women to make their bodies conform to an ideal, we need to reject – not embrace – the idea that “men prefer curvy women” or “men like women to have some curves”. I know it’s tempting for those of us whose natural body shape puts us outside the sociocultural beauty ideal to try to latch onto this idea to regain some confidence. I also understand wanting to...
