Just because I’m open about doesn’t make it any less real.
Just because I’m dating a boy doesn’t mean I’m suddenly straight.
Just because I’ve never had a girlfriend doesn’t mean I’m not serious about it.
Just because it might be “just a phase” or experimenting for others doesn’t mean it is for me.
You not believing me does not negate my bisexuality.
Michael Kimmel, from Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men
This is really well-put.
I’ve been getting a lot of obnoxious troll messages lately.
If you actually want to be responded to be sure to give context of what your talking about and present your arguments with facts instead of swearing- and then I’ll be happy to publish your comment and we can have a discussion.
I wanted to post this for clarification on my last post ‘Feminist porn users and hypocrisy’. I’m pro -some- bdsm porn. (just as I’m pro some porn over all from various pornography categories) I’m also completely pro consensual BDSM.
There is nothing wrong with safe, consensual fantasies or living them out- but like much of the pornography industry many BDSM porn sites treat their performers like shit and are completely disrespectful outside the roleplay and context of the fetish they cater too. I know this from first and second hand industry experience.
Many sites don’t screen models too see if they are even interested in BDSM, instead they just pick up girls desperate for cash and coax them into being beaten, strangled, having their genitals pierced or electrocuted etc etc; which is disgusting. Most of those things are far out of a lot of peoples comfort zones and I don’t agree with getting people to do things they consider degrading, shameful, disgusting or cause them trauma just because they want a few dollars. There are plenty of performers into BDSM (myself included!) and many companies (such as kink.com) screen them to be sure they are interested and the experience will be properly consensual and even if the performer will enjoy it.
The friendly, consensual, non-coerced, respectful fantasy BDSM porn where performers are engaged and willing is not what I’m talking about when I say ‘bad porn’.