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3emeespece:

The obsession with degrading, dehumanising, humiliating acts of pornography stems from the very orgasm that is achieved through the viewing of such material wherein the orgasm itself is “the world’s most powerful conditioning mechanism”.

Porn is a right …not when you are hurting someone else.

RIGHTS: the benefits that are derived from power. Just because a privilege is a norm does not make it a right.

Men have come to assume that using porn is a right. How many of my readers have been in a relationship with a dude who thinks he’s entitled to use porn and that it’s your responsibility to “get over it”? How many of my male readers have used porn while in a relationship, knowing that it made your partner uncomfortable (or worse)? How many of my readers know someone who is struggling with the feelings of anger, betrayal, and inadequacy that a partner’s porn use has created? Why, might I ask my male porn-using readers, do you feel entitled to do something that hurts someone you (purportedly) care about?

Reblogging for commentary worth a read.

If you don’t see what’s wrong with being a Nice Guy, it’s this: despite your “nice” actions, you are still living under the assumption that how you treat a woman entitles you to some sort of appreciation, or some part of her body. If you haven’t noticed by now, this makes you an asshole, too.

tidesofdenise:

 

I really dont understand it especially when people argue that its art

how is posing with you’re legs open art? 

and then I’ve also heard girls/guys say that its empowering to women that they can embrace and show love to their body via pictures

and honestly I think it does the opposite 

you’re actually showing a guy that you have to have your clothes off to get their attention 

and if you honestly did love your body you wouldn’t need the acceptance of others  

I gotta say Ive seen some disgusting things on tumblr since people act like its a fucking porn site and it annoys the hell out of me 

some people truly disgust me 

oh and by the way I do know that there is REAL art with the naked form of people and NO im not talking about that….

and no Im not scared of looking at the naked form of people which by the way is usually always women not men (when does one ever really see a guy posing naked in a pic… its very rare) 

rant ends people can go ahead and get mad if they want I could really care less =]

Your assumptions are very ignorant and broad.  

Firstly; They completely ignore or over-ride the thoughts, opinions and motives of whomever decides they do something you don’t like- in this case posing nude in various media.

Who are you to decide what is and what is not art, and that if art includes the topic of sexuality it can’t be art? What is inartistic about genitals? Are they not as attractive to you as skin, eyes, hands? Can nudity and sexuality not be appreciated artistically? Is sex and nudity not beautiful? Just because some may take sexual gratification from pictures or artwork; do they hold less artistic merit?

To say that if a women decides to be naked she tells the world ‘I need attention and this is the only way I can get it’ is ludicrous. It’s the same as saying if someone is a dentist they scream to the world “I need attention and this is the only way I can get it” or a women in a short dress calling “I need attention and this is the only way I can get it” or a woman politician, policewoman… or just any woman doing anything- ever. The only thing being nude is ‘telling’ people is that you are nude. Anything apart from that is a little more complex than you seem to imagine. To many women- myself included being naked IS liberating. 

I do it because I love nudity, I love real bodies, people and sexuality and my main hobby in photography and graphic design.

I do it because I love my body and my sexuality and I want to share it as by nature I am an exhibitionist- not because I want or need attention; and certainly not because I want ‘acceptance’ from others regarding my body, appearance, sexuality, personality or hobbies. I do it because it gives me great pleasure and I love it and that ALONE.

You have no right to assume that because I choose to do what I love that I am desperate for attention, have low self esteem or that need the acceptance of others because I can tell you right now; I don’t. I don’t need acceptance or care for the oppinions of others- Esp. not you and yours!

As for the reason why people may choose to enjoy the work of, or look up too people who decide to pose nude or in an erotic manner? There are many reasons. Perhaps they enjoy how beautiful sex and sexuality is. Maybe they enjoy depictions of women expressing themselves when they cannot.  Maybe they enjoy the fact that women more than ever are able to express themselves without legal repercussion, and in more safe, consensual circumstances than ever before and are able to run their own businesses. In any case; who are you to judge them?

For too long womens sexuality has been repressed or exploited. 
Would you like to know who is oppressing or exploiting my sexuality? No one, including you.

dustyloves:

I have a secret. When your eyes scour my naked skin, I am barely there at all.

The girl you know is sleek and hardbodied. This is why you cannot touch the soft pocket of flesh on my stomach, the sagging skin of my inner thighs, however good it might feel.

The girl you know is a dancer,…

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allieemet:

What Problems are Caused by Sexual Abuse?

Major Sexual Symptoms of Sexual Abuse

1. Difficulty with becoming aroused and feeling sensations
2. Sex feels like an obligation
3. Sexual thoughts and images that are disturbing
4. Inappropriate sexual behaviors or sexual compulsivity
5. Vaginal pain
6. Inability to achieve orgasm or other orgasmic difficulties
7. Erections problems or ejaculatory difficulty
8. Feeling dissociated while having sex
9. Detachment or emotional distance while having sex
10. Being afraid of sex or avoiding sex
11. Guilt, fear, anger, disgust or other negative feelings when being touched

http://www.psychotherapist.net/adultsurvivors.html