I cannot even BEGIN to tell you how fucking offended I am by this. Male gamers would have to write an essay, answer questions that test their knowledge, create something with purpose. But females? Oh no, their looks and sex appeal are clearly what we value them with as human beings and gamers and clearly define who deserves to go to E3.
Seriously, what the fuck were they thinking? “HEY YEAH LET’S SHOW OUR FEMALE AUDIENCE HOW MUCH WE APPRECIATE THEM AS HUMAN BEINGS WITH A PASSION FOR GAMING BY HOLDING A BEAUTY PAGEANT! AND THEN WHEN THEY WIN, INSTEAD OF GIVING THEM SOMETHING NON-DEGRADING TO DO OR ALLOWING THEM TO JUST ENJOY E3, WE’LL PARADE THEM AROUND LIKE A PIECE OF MEAT TO ATTRACT MEN TO OUR BOOTH.”
Needless to say, won’t be watching G4TV from now on. I strongly encourage everyone, with or without a vagina trophy, to tweet or email G4TV, or post on their forums, to let them know how backwards and sexist this is, and remind them that they do have a female audience who they’re doing an excellent job of objectifying and isolating. You can do so here.
“Thanks to to activists, private donors, and public grants, the LAPD has tested all 6,132 unexamined rape kits in its storage freezers. So far, new identifications number in “the dozens”; some of the 1,000 matches were already convicted.”
“Do you think that your 16 year old daughter hasn’t masturbated already? Like, do you really think there’s anything in that scene that this chick hasn’t already tried when the lights go out at night, or in the bathroom, or in the tub, or with the shower head or something like that? I’m telling you, man, I’m not teaching this broad anything new. If I were to create a rating system, I wouldn’t even put murder right at the top of the chief offenses. I would put rape right at the top, and assault against women. Because it’s so insanely overused and insulting how much it’s overused in movies as a plot device, a woman in peril. That, to me, is offensive, yet that shit skates.”—
Kevin Smith (director) on the ridiculousness of movies about sex receiving NC-17 ratings while extremely violent movies get by with R ratings (via phillip-gallagher)
There is nothing wrong with being a straight white male. But if you are, you might feel a twinge of guilt as you start to learn about your privilege. Don’t let that guilt shut you down. Here are some specific things you can do to take your understanding to the next level.
First, understand that you are not being persecuted. No one is trying to make you feel guilty. In other words, this whole conversation is not about you - it’s about the less privileged. Realize that you have a lot to gain by letting the less privileged help you understand what you’re encountering. The basic maxim here is let others talk, and learn from them. That’s never wrong, and if you’re committed to working through your understandings then you’re already well on your way. The less privileged don’t want to shut you out, they want to expand your views, and the best way to make this happen is to listen, ask questions, and reflect.
Second, come to terms with your privilege. Accept that you are a straight white male or whatever form of privilege you have, and start to actually think about the countless tangible ways this affects your life, from being able to chat in an MMO without sexist remarks belittling you, to being able to watch movies depicting people like you (and only you) doing many things and having many goals and achieving these goals in varied ways, to not having to take precautions for fear of being raped. Privilege comes in many forms, and the more you recognize it, the more you will understand just how lucky you are, and by extension how unlucky the less privileged are.
Third, turn your privilege into a tool to help the underprivileged. Decidenot to see yet another summer blockbuster that features no women in non-objectified roles; instead, go see a movie that tells a woman’s story for once. Choose not to tacitly accept others’ racist, sexist, homophobic, exclusionary language, and strike it from your own vocabulary. Make it clear that gay jokes and rape jokes and sexist behavior are unacceptable around you. Explain to your friends and family that this is important to you, it is important that we actually think really hard about how these aspects of our lives, though subtle, are indicative of greater forces. Privilege is a clue to who has power and options and who doesn’t. There are myriad ways you can use your privilege, but one that is constant: use your privilege to re-shape what is acceptable and what isn’t. Do it calmly, do it honestly.
Fourth, use your allies. That includes anyone who wants to end systems of privilege that inherently denigrate some and exalt others, by the way. That’s most people, I find, if you have an honest conversation with them. You can’t change systems on your own, and no one should have to deal with this stuff alone. But when you join others, in your workplace, in your social groups, in your everyday life, you can affect forms of privilege directly.
Finally, and perhaps most importantly, let the less privileged lead. That’s what this is all about, and why it’s so important to have allies. I promise no one will exclude you from conversations and efforts at change if you approach with this sort of reflective mentality.
It’s supposed to be a predominantly sex-based decision, but sometimes the lines get muddied, etc.
I’ve never practiced BDSM, but my understanding of it is that it is an entirely sex-based decision between consenting adults who have carefully laid out boundaries, safe words, etc. I don’t think that in true BDSM the lines between society and sex are blurred at all, especially since the power and control really lies with the submissive.
But yeah, it’s 100% sex-based, and as such it’s none of my business if two consenting adults practice BDSM.
I have no problem with females who are submissive. However, the predominance of female submission does bother me. Not because I think their sexual desires are wrong in any way, but because I know that we don’t acquire our preferences in a vacuum, and this is a sexist society. I’d like to be able to have a hideaway from that every so often, and when I see male rope-artist tying up female submissive time and time again, and never any other combo, I can’t enjoy it.
As a female submissive I struggle myself with this issue. It’s one of the reasons I don’t attend many local groups or lifestyle clubs. The majority of attendees are heterosexual couples- all female submissives and male tops. I find it uncomfortable that there is no balance in my community.
First of all, I would like to say that I would never approve of a rapist. I would never tell a woman what she cannot wear, or what she should wear to avoid rape. I would never blame a woman for her rape, however you need to be street smart. There are criminals in the world and there’s nothing you…
The problem with your answer firstly is: It’s a bandaid measure- and one that isn’t effective. You have to stop the source of the problem (rapists).
Secondly; most rapes don’t occur in that way so doing any of those things will have no effect.
Thirdly; doing those things generally makes no difference in the very few times rape occurs in those situations. If someone is intent on raping you they will do it, regardless of how drunk you are, who you are with or what you are doing. Taxis also aren’t always safe so that doesn’t make a difference.
“Being a feminist doesn’t mean suddenly no longer liking problematic things. If you stopped liking everything that was sexist in media and entertainment there would be no media or entertainment left. Being a feminist, to me, is being aware of what it is you’re liking, and of its problematic aspects.”—sabrina_il
Additionally, in lesbian culture several common slang terms used are “carpet munching”, “giving lip”, “lip service” or “tipping the velvet" (a faux-"Victorian" expression invented by novelist Sarah Waters).
Thats it, I’m using nothing but the term ‘tipping the velvet’ from now on.
I’m wondering how common cunnilingus was through history in various parts of the world. Blow jobs have been around for what seems like forever but there are very few references to cunnilingus that I can find.