Our Bodies; Our choice! Protest against Australia's largest anti-choice rally
Australia’s Largest Anti-Choice Rally to End to Abortion in Australia is being held to Sydney. So far over 2000 people have signed on to protest against women having control and freedom over their own bodies and reproductive rights.
If you think that treating women like invisible incubators with no rights isn’t ok, please join us in a peaceful protest against the religious conservatives hellbent on ruining the lives, minds and bodies of women around the country.
Why would you say I'm a horrible, close-minded person because I'm pro-life, because I disagree with you? Do I think you're horrible and close-minded because you're pro-choice? No, so STFU.
Because you being ‘pro-life’ means you force one of the most horrific, life threatening and painful naturally occurring things possible on women without any damned concern for their wishes, mental or physical welfare. Because the pro life sentiments reduces to women to nothing but incubators. Their lives, quality of lives, mental and physical welfare mean nothing over something which doesn’t even have the capacity to think, feel pain or anything else for ages before they are generally aborted. Pro life puts women’s lives at risk and treats them like dirt. Thats why.
I think we most certainly should! I’m in Melbourne but would gladly have a road trip to protest against this protest! I’m not sure how we would go about making this happen. I’d love to see more pro choice advocates than the horrible catholic anti-choicers. (Not anti-Catholic overall but this protest is run by Catholics)
Australian feminists and pro-choice advocates; Will you join us spread the Peaceful, Powerful Pro-choice message?
If so, how should we co-ordinate this? Facebook group?
this person is the reason why “stiletto” doesn’t update on godsgirls anymore. you can read the backstory at the link. please share the link far and wide. warn all of your followers about him. he has been harassing gg owner annaliese and model stiletto for years, all day, every day, relentlessly. please, please reblog this and help get the word out about this stalker.
Seriously, this man is a danger and most likely mentally ill.
He has been on a FOUR YEAR STALKING SPREE of one model who no longer feels safe to work with us on Godsgirls. Despite numberous warnings and restraining orders he is persisting, sending her daily emails etc, and the never ending sexual harassment. He has been threatening her in many ways including:
- Calling her workplaces to try and get her fired (many ways) - Impersonating one of her employers Annaliese - Contacting her family, telling them she is a prostitute and the like - Threatening to post fake ads of her for prostitution
Photos of him, a list of his aliases and contact emails etc as well as pictures of the restraining order, his emails, tweets etc are all on the website HERE.
Please reblog this and stay aware of this man, this is not the first altporn model he has stalked.
It looks slut shamey, whorephobic, transphobic and of course, completely anti-porn. This makes me feel sad and I’d like to go in, but I don’t want ot have to deal with such negative, uninformed and judgmental views as the ones they appear to have from the website blog and their book display choice. Oh, and their love of wingnut Gail Dines.
I can’t decide if I should go in or not. And if they talk to me, if I should mention that I find their blog and book display choice rather offensive. Because if they do talk to me if I decide to go in there is NO way I can keep my mouth shut or smile and nod.
“TRIGGER WARNING [rape]: When somebody says, “I don’t think women should be raped for wearing short skirts, but what do they expect when they do go out like that?” what you are actually saying is that if a woman in a short skirt is raped, you will be less likely to hold her rapist culpable. Which makes a woman in a short skirt really appealing to a rapist. That’s something that you did. That’s not something the woman in the short skirt did, or something the rapist did. You made that woman a more comfortable target by making it clear that if she got raped, you would be less upset about it, less willing to see the rapist go to jail, less willing to support the woman. A woman is not increasing her risk of being raped by wearing a short skirt. You are increasing her risk of being raped by saying that women who get raped in short skirts should have expected that. Rapists hear you say that. By only raping the women that bystanders agree should be raped, a rapist reduces his chance of being caught and, if caught, punished. And that is why he will pick those women, over and over again, not because there is something more appealingly rapeable about them — they have what any woman has, as far as rape goes — but because he will be less likely to be held culpable for his actions.”—interestingggg indeed. (via notaskingforpermission)
“You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked “female”.”—
ooo! did you really just get a hitachi wand? mind posting a review or general thoughts on it? i am wondering if i should just suck it up and shell out the dough to get it. i have a not-rabbit-brand rabbit that i'm pleased with, but not completely satisfied with...
I did! I also have a replica of the hitachi which is just as amazing so far and was half the price plus doesn’t have issues with the power supply in Australia. :D
I’ll be doing a full review of it to post on my website blog in the upcoming days. My website is an adult erotica/porn site, so it is NSFW so please beware if you aren’t interested in seeing the adult content along with the review. I do like to consider my website and all it’s content feminist/women/queer friendly however and I can assure you everything there is ‘safe, sane, consensual and respectful’. I will post a link directly to it however when it goes online for you. :)
My sexuality =/= responsible for my oppression or yours.
As a women who fits / is the following:
conventionally attractive in a sexual way (large bust/hips-tiny waist)
enjoys lingerie, sexualized and ‘sexy’ attire
openly displays sexuality
creates profit from sexuality without exploitation
true sexual exhibitionist
a creator of sexual erotic material that is for sale featuring women
a ‘sex-positive’ feminist (I know the term is problematic but not sure what else to use)
I find it offensive that:
I am blamed for womens and my own oppression
I am blamed for violence committed against me
I am blamed for women being raped and sexually abused
I am blamed for sexual slavery and people trafficking
I am blamed for women having problems sexually
I am blamed for society hypersexualizing women
I am blamed for children having low self esteem
I am blamed for a rise in STDs and pregnancy
I am blamed for partners being unfaithful
I am blamed for ‘distorted’ veiws on sexuality and sex
I am blamed for ‘fake’ lesbianism and ‘confused’ sexuality
I am blamed for the fetishization of non heterosexuals and queers
It is assumed I have no / low self esteem or body image
It is assumed that I have no standards or am “easy”
It is assumed my sexuality is only a toy for men
It is assumed that my choices are not my own
It is assumed I am influenced by men/patriarchy and have no autonomy
It is assumed that I was forced into working and am a slave
It is assumed I am exploitative, abusive and that I am a misogynist
It is assumed I am uneducated, especially on feminist topics
It is assumed I don’t care about feminism / womens rights
It is assumed that when I say I’m not a sex slave I either support slavery or deny it exists
The worst part? Most of these inaccurate and nasty assumptions come from people who should be my allies; my feminist brothers and sisters.
Society is to blame.A lack of education is to blame. Not one single queer woman who naturally happens to be conventionally attractive, whose sexuality entails exhibitionism and visual displays of the erotic, who is confident, TRULY sexually liberated and unafraid.
I am just being myself; WHO I TRULY AM.
My sexual preferences and sexual expressions are just that- sexual preferences and sexual expressions. I have complete personal autonomy in all aspects. I am not ‘brainwashed’ or culturally contrived due to patriarchy. No part of me is just a ‘plaything’ for men; including my sexuality. I do not have low self esteem. I certainly have standards. There is no denying that expecting all women to be like me, or being pressed by society to be like me is wrong- but that doesn’t mean I am to blame, nor does it mean that because I enjoy those things personally I am wrong or responsible.
If you beleive I am responsible for the things above and you call yourself a feminist then I suggest you have a look at yourself and your views deep down and assess what feminism really is to you. Because if you think being a feminist is about repressing my sexuality, my sexual freedoms and who I am and then blaming all of societies problems relating to sex on me; I don’t think you are any better than what you think I am- which is apparently some kind of oppressive, sexually messed up monster.
Most “good guys” take a woman’s firm “No!” for an answer. (Those who don’t are best left to the ministrations of our criminal justice system.) But lots of men are like the guy I was at 19—assuming that while “no means no” anything short of a firm “no” is either a “yes” or a “keep at it, boy, because you just might get a ‘yes’ soon.” Call it male sexual legalism, the first rule of which is “All that is not expressly prohibited is assumed to be permitted.” That legalism can turn many men into accidental rapists.
a list, albeit not a universal or comprehensive one, of things to do when you see a woman dressed all sexy-like.
1. Admire, if it’s your thing. I mean, why not?
2. Don’t stare. It’s rude. And it’s not like the view is going to change from minute to minute–generally, women don’t spontaneously disrobe or hyperinflate their breasts or turn into lizard-people such that you’d miss it if you turned away. The view ten seconds now will be pretty much the same as the view you’re getting now, so it’s safe to look away.
3. Keep your commentary–and your hands–to yourself. Some women truly are into it; many aren’t. Many really aren’t. It’s best to err on the side of not offending anyone.
4. Don’t assume she’s dressing for you. Maybe she’s dressed all sexy-like for the benefit of her boyfriend/girlfriend, and they just happen to be out in public where you can observe it.
5. Don’t assume she’s dressing for you. Maybe she’s dressed all sexy-like for the guy two barstools down from you, who’s taller than you and flashed a Rolex when he reached for his drink. Or maybe it’s for the guy next to you on the other side who’s shorter than you and wearing tight jeans and hipster glasses that you think look stupid. Or maybe it’s for the woman behind the bar. She’s allowed to be picky, and she’s allowed to not pick you. The fact that you’re sitting within sight of her all-sexy-likeness doesn’t mean she’s aiming it at you–just that she’s a shotgun and you’re within the spread.
6. Don’t assume she’s dressing for you–or anyone else, for that matter. Maybe she’s dressed all sexy-like purely for herself, because she likes the way she looks. Maybe looking all sexy-like makes her feel sexy, and that gives her more confidence or a little bit of a personal thrill. And yes, maybe her look is one that is also appealing to the more prurient gaze, but there’s a difference between wanting to look sexy and wanting toactively pursue interaction of a sexual nature. She gets to do either one.
7. Don’t think she owes you anything. Dressing all sexy-like isn’t some contract with the world that a woman will respond positively to all come-ons or welcome all (or any) physical advances. Even if she is dressed all sexy-like expressly so that people will look at her, that doesn’t mean she wants anyone to touch her or even speak to her, and she gets to do that. If you insist on seeing it as a transaction, think of it this way: She gets to dress in a way that makes her feel sexy, and you get to enjoy seeing a woman who’s dressed all sexy-like.
8. Be a nice guy (or girl), not a Nice Guy™. Review #5. Maybe she’s not into short guys, or tall girls, or guys at all, or girls at all, or facial hair, or muscles, or people who open with “Hey, nice tits.” People have their reasons–and you’re eyeing the woman who’s dressed all sexy-like and not the woman in the mom jeans next to her, so it’s not like you’re one to talk. Here’s a clue: If you find yourself saying, “I’m a nice guy, but no one will sleep with me! Women are only into rich/bad/hot guys. Shallow bitches, all of them,” you’re not a nice guy. You’re a Nice Guy™, and that’swhy you’re single.
Am I leaving anything out? Moreover, at what point do you know that a male friend is just plain not educable?
Yeah, her facial modifications are gross and make her look like something that may or may not have emerged from the set of Alien 3 while nobody was looking.
THAT IS NOT THE POINT.
I got a huge feminist beef with sites like this that thrive on the mockery and ridicule of women who try to live up to the ever-shifting, just-barely-out-of-reach cis, white, hetero, male-defined beauty standards imposed on women by the patriarchy. Every time someone goes all OMG WTF GROSS on some poor lady who tried a bit too hard, I die a little inside, because it only serves to reinforce those impossible beauty ideals while also demeaning women for trying to live up to them. I say women, because they make up the bulk of the website’s content; the dudes are few and far between.
It’s a double bind and also an important lesson re: surviving the patriarchy: being born “pretty” or having been “pretty” or otherwise idealized at any time of your life or career won’t protect you from being oppressed.
The fact that there is a whole website devoted to plastic surgery gone wrong hints that these are not isolated incidents or about the individual “vanity” of those who go for plastic surgery to enhance their looks. The pursuit of the ideal is serious business, and sometimes also literally a matter of life and death.
If you want to blame someone, blame the patriarchy for creating a fucked-up system in which people subject themselves to (sometimes multiple) mutilation in order to appease the grand jury. Save your ire for the media and entertainment industrial complexes that cannot allow a human being to look like one.
“The solution is to not gender others when you don’t know their gender. If you see someone, you don’t just think you know their name right? Like, if you saw someone walking down the street, you wouldn’t just be like, “Their name is definitely Mark.” Genders/pronouns/etc. (as much as people want to argue that this isn’t true) work the same way.”—
“Sluts share their sexuality the way philanthropists share their money: because they have a lot of it to share, because it makes them happy to share it, because sharing makes the world a better place. Sluts often find that the more love and sex they give away, the more they have: a loaves-and-fishes miracle in which greed and generosity go hand-in-hand to provide more for everybody. Imagine living in sexual abundance!”—Dossie Easton & Catherine Liszt, The Ethical Slut. (via deadladyofclowntown)
For the love of god: don’t, don’t, DON’T scream “Suck it, bitch!” while playing video games. Even if it’s not PvP and you’re yelling at an enemy NPC it’s still a MASSIVE turn-off. Ditto for other misogynistic bullshit.
Look at it this way, if I think you think fellatio is a bad thing, how likely do you think you are to get it?
It would, however, be fair to say that I don’t easily trust them.
My mistrust is not, as one might expect, primarily a result of the violent acts done on my body, nor the vicious humiliations done to my dignity. It is, instead, born of the multitude of mundane betrayals that mark my every relationship with a man—the casual rape joke, the use of a female slur, the careless demonization of the feminine in everyday conversation, the accusations of overreaction, the eyerolling and exasperated sighs in response to polite requests to please not use misogynist epithets in my presence or to please use non-gendered language (“humankind”).
Lately I had a small tiff with a few people I follow over on my regular tumblr regarding the fact they have been posting and reblogging a staggering amount of posts that include incest, implied incest and incest jokes. For me, as a victim of childhood incestuous rape and molestation the topic is IMMENSELY triggering, and this is something most of them know. However, they continue to post these things without warnings.
I wanted to bring it to their attention before unfollowing them, pointing out why many of the jokes and things they where posting where a bit off, even taking my personal biases off the table. This however, did not go well for me. I was told incest was their own personal fetish, and like rape, bdsm, pedophilia and other things (because bdsm, rape and child molesting are all the same right? *barf*) each person was entitled to their own ‘deviance and perversions’. (her words, not mine.) Never at all in my conversation did I police anyone including her on what they could and couldn’t like. I simply let her know that I found it objectionable and that incest rape jokes weren’t funny, or just rape jokes at all. I’ve stopped following her, and social situations are now very awkward. But its better than a dash full of nightmares, flashbacks and provocations for self harm.
This often happens with people who make or reblog misogynistic, racist and homophobic posts. Immediately defensive, insulting and dismissing. When these people are strangers, it can be easy to ignore or point out to them. Worst comes to worst you don’t know them and can just ignore them and keep on keeping on.
My question is; what do you do when these people are your friends? Your family? What do you do when something so offensive to you they consider ‘core’ to their being? When they do horrible things like compare child rape fantasies to consensual over age bdsm activities?
Quebec government has a social marketing campaign to get parents to give thier daughter’s the HPV vaccine. Not only does this include erroneous information - but it implys daughters need constant sexual monitoring - either you belt them up or give them a vaccine. there is nothing else you can do stop them from getting HPV. It’s creepy creepy creepy!
I understand and agree with supporting the sex work profession in order to lower stigma. By lowering the stigma of sex workers, we also lower the stigma of sex positivity.
However, this is very problematic within a feminist context.
Having a developing sexuality fertilized by socialization directly causes and effects what and how one achieves and exceeds arousal. Therefore, even if sex work was recognized as a respectable profession, the sex workers themselves are most likely continuing to participate and enable their own socialization, the socialization of others and ultimately, their own oppression.”
… read on
I feel you are completely incorrect and am offended at many things you have said. I find it odd that you talk about how folks are effected by socialization, and yet can’t seem to see that your views of money for sex=/= objectification are directly related to your own socialization for starters. You deciding that all sex work clientele are chauvinists making real their “oppressive misogynist fantasies” come true is also obviously directly coming from your own (in many cases incorrect) ideas sprouted from your socialization.
As as sex worker I know that not all my clients are chauvinists or misogynists nor are their fantasies, their physical or emotional needs. Your assumptions about a very large group of people (many of whom are not male or straight) is appalling, dismissive and oppressive. There is no questioning those bad types of people exist but the notion that all or the majority are bad people is incorrect and offensive- and based directly on your socialization and social constructs.
As a sex worker I also do not believe my work is oppressing and I am certainly not taking responsibility for the oppression of other sex workers, the community at large or myself or for enabling such abuses. I honestly believe misogynists and people who tell me that living outside their ideal worlds and social constructs (such as you) implying I am causing my own and others oppression are the ones who are at least partially responsible for my oppression and degradation among other things.
Sex for any reason (including money) =/= auto = oppression
Sex for any reason (including money) =/= auto = being degraded
Sex for any reason (including money) =/= auto = objectification
Sex for any reason (including money) =/= auto = any less empowered in any way.
I’m tired of the notion that because someone is willing to spend time, money, emotional investment or anything else for my time means that they are obectifing me. It’s nonsense, and it’s harmful nonsense. Your assumption that all these things automatically make me a victim, make my customers smug misogynists who are empowered for something you consider degrading/oppressive/objectifying and the like are ALL based on your own personal biases and your socialization and social constructs.
I would like to use your Sexual Assault Prevention Tips poster in an essay I'm writing that I will submit for publication to literary magazines. Would that be okay with you? I will of course give you credit for your image.
Thats fine. Please also note the creator of the original text, who is credited in the OP. :)
Sometimes I feel like drinking my heart out and staring blearily at the sky knowing there is no future in Malaysia for me. Be it as a young woman, a budding designer, an opinionated and left-wing lesbian or a fresh graduate, I can’t stay in that country.
As a female, the patriarchal and sexist nature of both the politicians and the people in the country is degrading and revolting. The religious nature of most of their reasonings in treating women that way doesn’t help, contrary to popular belief.
As a designer, Malaysia’s creative industry is limited. There is only so far you can take a campaign because of the overwhelming amount of self-censorship involved in the conceptualisation and execution of an idea. There are so many lines you cannot cross, a lot of red tape, and a creative sphere that can’t be breached because of all the sensitivities you have to consider with our multi-racial community. How ironic that the one thing that makes us so unique will be our downfall because of how tensions will never be eased, what with people dredging up petty issues all the time and ads getting withdrawn because it offends the sensibilities of one particular race or another.
As a left-wing supporter (along the lines of Lib Dem), I despair to look at the state of Malaysian politics. Our opposition is divided and weak. Our errant authorities are milking that situation to the fullest, maintaining an iron grip on control and governance while making all sorts of decisions, passing all sorts of laws regardless of what the people need. The recent passing of the new amendments to the Employment laws is a mockery of our nation, a dismissal of the workers. It is also, among other things, a huge disappointment. The increasing religiosity of the ruling parties’ motives and manifestos is a way to buy votes, but also, again, a mockery of the constitution given how we are technically and rightfully a secular nation.
As a lesbian, especially one who wants to be accepted and married to a woman one day (possibly with children), I know Malaysia is a place I cannot go back to to raise a family. Anywhere in Asia or any place with a fanatical religious background is not a place for me to live, work and raise a family and start my own legacy as a person. Malaysia is rife with hate, homophobia, intolerance and discrimination.
I repeat: how does it feel to know that you’ll never belong?
To know that you’ll never truly be able to become the person you aspire to be in your own place of birth, the country you were born in, and be with the person you love openly?
To know you will have to struggle with work more than some other countries due to a lack of a proper law on minimum wage and an alarming economic and financial crisis that no one seems to be addressing due to a preoccupation with bringing up politicians’ sex scandals in getting ahead of one another in the rat race for power?
To know you can’t explore creatively as much in an industry that is looked down upon in a country that, being Asian, extols the virtues of science-related professions more than they will ever give the arts and humanities the time of day, and will constantly sneer at your choice of work even if you earn the money?
To know you’ll always be considered a sex object in more ways than one, and considered inferior because of your gender by the majority of the population, because their beliefs were ingrained into them as such since birth?
It’s very, very painful to realise that you do not belong in your home country, but that you’ll never be home anywhere else.
Bringing back 'Vice Squad' style policing has nothing to do with helping women and everything to do with hating them, fear mongering and money.
The Victorian police are to be given new rights to ‘crack down’ on illegal brothels. Citing that Melbourne had a ‘booming illegal sex trade’ and that illegal brothels posed serious risk to the community because illegal brothels promoted abuse of women, tax avoidance, illegal immigration and health risks due to unprotected sex among other things. Cracking down on sex slavery is one thing but this is not whats going on overall.
I’d just like to say; if the government thinks that a return to the misogynistic, whorephobic and violent Vice Squad style of policing the underground sex industry is going to help women- they are deadly wrong- and it’s going to destroy and hurt many lives.
This isn’t about helping women. Sex slaves or freely and happily working.
It’s about getting rid of ‘illegals’ and ‘undesirables’ (Generally poor and abused women from Asian countries who want a better life but can’t get visas as they aren’t doctors/nurses/teachers/tradies- which is all we are taking in.)
It’s about taxing an underclass to death for jobs that already pay much less than they should so that life is unbearable and it makes legal work like prostitution not worth the tiny scrap of money you’ll have left over after tax worth it.
It’s about keeping women under the hand of oppressive “regulators” (pimps and brothel pimps) and keeping their pockets well filled, while stealing that money from workers. “Regulators” who in Victoria take MASSIVE and unfair cuts from women’s pay in exchange for little more than a legal venue to work in (often they take more than 50-60% of what they charge clients for the woman’s time- google-fu Melbourne brothels and see), making it unprofitable or unworth working in a ‘legal’ sexual; service venue. Many of whom force workers into contracts stating where else they can and can not work, taking advantage of women and smothering them.
It’s about fear mongering and then ‘fixing’ the ‘moral’ problem to ‘protect’ the public from its pearl clutching against many poor women who are just trying to get by but who are tired of Victoria’s nonsensical and grey-area laws regarding private sex work, who are tired of having over 50% of their hard earned money taken from legal pimps who give fuck all in return BEFORE tax, and who are tired of being discriminated against for being a sex worker even when it’s legal by almost every industry.
As such they decide not to register as prostitutes, work for a ‘safe and legal’ pimp, decide to work for themselves or privately for an amount that is actually fair and reasonable for the work they do, not pay a huge lump sum of unfair tax for services they will not be allowed to use because they are part of a legal but disliked profession and as such are legally discriminated against.
Going after illegal brothels in the business of sex slavery is different, but over all this is not what it’s about at all. They should stop pretending this is about anything but hatred of illegal immigrants and underclass, making more tax money, fattening the pay packets of pimps and publicity at the expense of real people. I say;